I'd rather be called a "Fat-Hairy-Man-Hating-Lesbian" than a Non-Feminist!

Apparently lots of women are deterred from embracing feminism or calling themselves feminists - even if they speak and act like one, for fear of being put in the fat-hairy-man-hating-lesbian bag (check out all the defenses against this by typing "feminism" into YouTube). This shows just how undermined and vulnerable womens egos and self-esteem are within patriarchy... weren't we told "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me"? A few little insults shouldn't stop women from sticking up for their right to be respected as human, equal, not to be commoditised or abused- surely?

What is the opposite of this oh-so-terrible-insult?:

....the skinny-waxed-man-pleasing-straight-woman......

Let just say that one again, but this time as an insult:



"YOU-SKINNY-WAXED-MAN-PLEASING-STRAIGHT-WOMAN!"



This to me sounds no less of an insult - I'd hate someone to shout that at me. Sounds like a different way of saying "lame" or "vacuous" or "tool"........ Yet this is what patriarchy is constantly telling us to be:.... a lame, vacuous tool in the form of a skinny-waxed-man-pleasing-straight-woman... We see this woman all around us, all the time, getting to positions of prominance to smile back like some Stepford Wife role model. She found her way out of the porn mags, into the mainstream media and now lives and breathes all around us in all the women who feel pressure to turn themselves into walking sex-dolls wearing inappropriately little or suggestive clothing, and strategically hiding their own intelligance to avoid graft.

What self-respecting woman would rather belong this camp than call herself a feminist? There must be something really powerful in the FHMHL insult to make it put women off of the issue of their own liberation and behave in demeaning ways.Lets de-construct the insult word by word:

So' FAT' - what is so wrong with fat?


Aside from the health issues, which are not gender based, what is objectively wrong with it?

1. Some men find it sexually offputting.


Answer: Who gives a shit? If a man is so easily turned off of sex by a few extra curves, perhaps he is the one who needs help.

2.Clothes look better on skinny people.

Answer: No they don't, they just look more like the images we a spoonfed daily. Fat people can look just as good.

So 'HAIRY' - what is so wrong with hairiness?

1. Some men find it sexually offputting.

Answer: Who gives a shit? If a man is so easily turned off of sex by a bit of body hair, perhaps he is the one who needs help.

2. It looks ape-like and bestial.

Answer: We are actually apes. Apes that have successfully partnered and bred long before the razor was introduced.


So "MAN-HATING", what's so bad about that?

1. It makes us look like we are angry and 'emotional' i.e. not rational.

Answer: There are men like Hugh Hefner, Larry Flint, Peter Stringfellow, Rupert Murdoch, etc, etc, etc, who make themselves rich from making women look foolish and encouraging a culture where rape looks respectable. What's not to hate? It is perfectly rational to hate them and irrational to defend them. And I'd also like to stand up and say I AM FUCKING ANGRY!!!!

2. It makes it look like we blame men as individuals.

Answer: Until all men examine their learned unconscious behaviours which propagate the oppression of women, the work of feminism cannot be completed.

And 'LESBIAN', what's so bad about that?

1. It puts us in the same catagory as a group which is the subject of ridicule and mocking.

Answer: It also puts us in the same catagory as some of the most dynamic, uncompromising and achieving women in the world (Its amazing what women can acheive when they are not stuck solely tending home, hearth and husband).

2. It suggests that we don't want sex with men.

Answer: If that were true we'd have a much easier life.

So surely, we can move beyond these juvanile insults... We've got the job changing the status quo to get on with!!